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falcongrrl) wrote2006-04-27 10:10 am
falcongrrl) wrote2006-04-27 10:10 am
Interesting
Last night at pagan group, someone said, "I just don't think that other people will find me interesting. I'm not interesting. I'm boring."
The two other people chimed in.
"Me either," said one.
"I get so intimidated by people who are interesting," said the other. "I don't know what to say to them. I mean, you can ask them questions, get them to tell you about themselves, but that only goes so far."
"I think I'm interesting to a very small group of people," I said. "Like a niche market. I'm one of those cult movies that some people love to watch over and over again, while others have no interest at all."
I'm still thinking about it, though.
I think people, all people, are fascinating. That said, I honestly don't like people all that much. My tendency is to hide in my cave, crotchety, suspicious. There are a few people who can bring me out...but I don't like organizations. I mistrust the way people act in groups. I sometimes feel like an armadillo among squirrels, in terms of how I relate to the rest of the human race.
But I can't think of any single person who has struck me as boring. I might find their writing or conversation boring, or their perspectives tedious in some way...but they themselves? Not boring. Endlessly fascinating, in fact.
So I don't know what criterion makes other people judge someone as interesting or not interesting or why those mental file folders exist.
I have to think about what makes me want to spend time with other people, and that's tough to quantify. Certainly there's a difference between finding someone interesting and liking them. However, there's also a difference between liking someone and wanting to spend time with them. (Note: for me, online time chatting 'counts.' It's just time, period.) So, for me, in terms of friendship: interesting is irrelevant, liking is more important but still not quite enough, and enjoying your company trumps all.
Interesting.
Anyway, if you comment here, I'll tell you why I find you fascinating...because, undoubtedly, I do.
The two other people chimed in.
"Me either," said one.
"I get so intimidated by people who are interesting," said the other. "I don't know what to say to them. I mean, you can ask them questions, get them to tell you about themselves, but that only goes so far."
"I think I'm interesting to a very small group of people," I said. "Like a niche market. I'm one of those cult movies that some people love to watch over and over again, while others have no interest at all."
I'm still thinking about it, though.
I think people, all people, are fascinating. That said, I honestly don't like people all that much. My tendency is to hide in my cave, crotchety, suspicious. There are a few people who can bring me out...but I don't like organizations. I mistrust the way people act in groups. I sometimes feel like an armadillo among squirrels, in terms of how I relate to the rest of the human race.
But I can't think of any single person who has struck me as boring. I might find their writing or conversation boring, or their perspectives tedious in some way...but they themselves? Not boring. Endlessly fascinating, in fact.
So I don't know what criterion makes other people judge someone as interesting or not interesting or why those mental file folders exist.
I have to think about what makes me want to spend time with other people, and that's tough to quantify. Certainly there's a difference between finding someone interesting and liking them. However, there's also a difference between liking someone and wanting to spend time with them. (Note: for me, online time chatting 'counts.' It's just time, period.) So, for me, in terms of friendship: interesting is irrelevant, liking is more important but still not quite enough, and enjoying your company trumps all.
Interesting.
Anyway, if you comment here, I'll tell you why I find you fascinating...because, undoubtedly, I do.
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I LOVE the Dora idea. That's just brilliant.
I find you fascinating for a number of reasons, but one of the things that's most compelling for me is your Christianity. Even though we don't share the same faith, hearing about your beliefs and how they impact your life gives me more respect for the religion of my birth. Your compassion and lifestyle is its own witness, and a very beautiful one.
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In return, then. . .
I find you fascinating for the juxtaposition of SAHM and all those other things, the things the other parents of kindergarteners just don't see. I love that you write poetry - that's a medium that has called to me occasionally through my life, but it's always been elusive. You do a delicate balancing act so much of the time, and it seems from here that you do a good job of it - though I know how hard it can be and how much you sometimes wish you could be free of the stereotypes you've chosen to act out.
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