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falcongrrl) wrote2006-04-27 10:10 am
falcongrrl) wrote2006-04-27 10:10 am
Interesting
Last night at pagan group, someone said, "I just don't think that other people will find me interesting. I'm not interesting. I'm boring."
The two other people chimed in.
"Me either," said one.
"I get so intimidated by people who are interesting," said the other. "I don't know what to say to them. I mean, you can ask them questions, get them to tell you about themselves, but that only goes so far."
"I think I'm interesting to a very small group of people," I said. "Like a niche market. I'm one of those cult movies that some people love to watch over and over again, while others have no interest at all."
I'm still thinking about it, though.
I think people, all people, are fascinating. That said, I honestly don't like people all that much. My tendency is to hide in my cave, crotchety, suspicious. There are a few people who can bring me out...but I don't like organizations. I mistrust the way people act in groups. I sometimes feel like an armadillo among squirrels, in terms of how I relate to the rest of the human race.
But I can't think of any single person who has struck me as boring. I might find their writing or conversation boring, or their perspectives tedious in some way...but they themselves? Not boring. Endlessly fascinating, in fact.
So I don't know what criterion makes other people judge someone as interesting or not interesting or why those mental file folders exist.
I have to think about what makes me want to spend time with other people, and that's tough to quantify. Certainly there's a difference between finding someone interesting and liking them. However, there's also a difference between liking someone and wanting to spend time with them. (Note: for me, online time chatting 'counts.' It's just time, period.) So, for me, in terms of friendship: interesting is irrelevant, liking is more important but still not quite enough, and enjoying your company trumps all.
Interesting.
Anyway, if you comment here, I'll tell you why I find you fascinating...because, undoubtedly, I do.
The two other people chimed in.
"Me either," said one.
"I get so intimidated by people who are interesting," said the other. "I don't know what to say to them. I mean, you can ask them questions, get them to tell you about themselves, but that only goes so far."
"I think I'm interesting to a very small group of people," I said. "Like a niche market. I'm one of those cult movies that some people love to watch over and over again, while others have no interest at all."
I'm still thinking about it, though.
I think people, all people, are fascinating. That said, I honestly don't like people all that much. My tendency is to hide in my cave, crotchety, suspicious. There are a few people who can bring me out...but I don't like organizations. I mistrust the way people act in groups. I sometimes feel like an armadillo among squirrels, in terms of how I relate to the rest of the human race.
But I can't think of any single person who has struck me as boring. I might find their writing or conversation boring, or their perspectives tedious in some way...but they themselves? Not boring. Endlessly fascinating, in fact.
So I don't know what criterion makes other people judge someone as interesting or not interesting or why those mental file folders exist.
I have to think about what makes me want to spend time with other people, and that's tough to quantify. Certainly there's a difference between finding someone interesting and liking them. However, there's also a difference between liking someone and wanting to spend time with them. (Note: for me, online time chatting 'counts.' It's just time, period.) So, for me, in terms of friendship: interesting is irrelevant, liking is more important but still not quite enough, and enjoying your company trumps all.
Interesting.
Anyway, if you comment here, I'll tell you why I find you fascinating...because, undoubtedly, I do.
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BTW, I find you comforting. I know that you have struggles and troubles, but you still seem grounded. I love hearing about the dogs (even though they get aggravating) and your walks and even about how cold your office is (because I'm always cold at home!)
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But it's interesting to me that you wrote this with an idea of who I am that's completely false, unless it's a parallel universe's version of me. :-)
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I go die now.
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