As someone who is cis, I don't think I have a lot of say in this, because passing is a safety issue and it doesn't really apply to cis people who don't give passing a second thought because obviously I'm a woman/man and how can anyone even think of questioning that - it's a privilege thing.

However, as a feminist, I find the whole talk about things that are lady like or feminine and thus inherent to one as a woman, in order to actually be a woman - which women are, born and raised as boys/men or not - really grinds me. Because it's also an assimilation thing, which is something I greatly oppose. I think the people who point at gender-non-conforming people in the street should be ashamed and not the other way around.