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[falcongrrl]

Okay, so I'm filling out these OKCupid questions, mainly 'cause I'm bored and half-making dinner half-watching kids. 'Cause I already have a partner, and a something-or-other, so I'm not actually looking for anything. Still, somehow it still seems like a fun exercise, maybe because I get to know myself better and think about various issues. (I think this relatively cavalier approach is pretty clear from reading my profile. Definitely the married part is.) Anyway, there's a question about how important the actual question at hand is to you (which seems a tad meta). 'Is it a dealbreaker?' in other words.

Usually I lackadaisically drift through the topics, checking 'a little important' or 'somewhat important' or, even more rarely, 'very important.' Many other times I skip the question because it feels irrelevant.

Until I ran across one that said, "Do you prefer that your match use correct spelling and grammar?"

Umm, why yes. Yes I do.

This is the only question whose response I checked as mandatory.

I'm kind of afraid of what this says about me.

Comments

[gleefulfreak.livejournal.com]

That you're kind of like me? At my high school graduation banquet, the class historian was responsible for making up a fake "where are they now" sort of thing saying what all of us went on to. She had me down as shooting my husband for using a double negative. ;)


(Which is ridiculous because I wouldn't marry someone who'd use a double negative, in the first place.)

[ladyperegrine.livejournal.com]

*grins*

[wapsi.livejournal.com]

I'm kind of afraid of what this says about me.

Perhaps that you're a sapiosexual?

[ladyperegrine.livejournal.com]

Yes. :-)

[jenny_evergreen]

*grin* I completely relate, although I did end up taking a more mellow approach myself. (If I hadn't, I wouldn't be married to Tom. He's the victim of a poor education, but he tries and has improved a lot since we got together.)

I am, however, much more picky than you; there are several mandatory responses in my OKCupid questions.

[ladyperegrine.livejournal.com]

Yeah, Dave actually struggles with spelling issues and has gotten a lot better. So I guess maybe I'm being a bit hypocritical. But I really prefer reading correct spelling and grammar--and I'm mostly interested in corresponding with interesting folks at this point.

[cktraveler.livejournal.com]

I believe I marked that one "Very Important." I don't care that much in instant messaging and I can tolerate someone who doesn't capitalize much, but broken grammar is an incredible turn-off.

I checked MANY mandatory questions, though, since very often the "would you date X" questions referred to a group I was a part of. There are also some political beliefs (like supporting gay rights) that I consider part of basic human decency ...

[ladyperegrine.livejournal.com]

That's true, and I agree with you. Now I'm wondering if perhaps I did choose more mandatory answers and then forgot about them, because I do think I saw those questions and would have answered them in similar ways to you.

[foxmagic.livejournal.com]

*adores you* ;)

[ladyperegrine.livejournal.com]

*awwws and petpets* Thanks. :-) I think you're pretty nifty, too.